If we feel or believe that we’ve been abandoned by someone we love, the loss and grief that we experience may be so intense that we might dive into distraction, protection, or both. Whether we seek solace in drink, food, drug, work, gambling, sex, the nearest quiet cave, or something else, these types of choices are like a Band-Aid on a chainsaw wound. They don’t cover or heal us, and they leave us open to further injury and infection.
In today’s world of hyper-sensitive reactions to issues of perception, feathers can get ruffled. Today’s topic of abandonment is, at the very least, a touchy subject. Why? Because the perception of being abandoned is an opinion and perspective. For example, a child may feel she was abandoned by her parents. Meanwhile, her parents, having done no self-reflection, defend their style of parenting and feel that their child was given everything.