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What Will Your Coach do for YOU?
Coaches will care about what is in your best and highest good from a big-picture (soul) perspective. Coaches will inspire and encourage you to be your best—which you determine. Coaches will not tell you what to do or assume that you want change. Coaches can be a safe place to share your truth and feel heard. Coaches can accelerate change. If change is desired, you will need to change (as within, so without). This can be discussed. Coaches will be supportive of your very best and your needs (which sometimes aren’t the same), and will offer you confidential, non-judgmental, unconditionally loving support.
What Do Coaches Do?
LISTEN to words and undertones. Ask thought-provoking questions: Open-ended. Open you up
to new possibilities. Motivate, provide accountability, inspire, celebrate accomplishments, help you discover internal and external resources to help yourself. Provide a fresh perspective and focus. Create a commitment. Hold you accountable to do what you say you will do. Be a champion and cheerleader for your best life and self that you love and enjoy!
What will you do? (creative, resourceful and whole people)
You are the expert on yourself. You will set a clear and specific intention before each session and share that with your mentor. If you seek change, you will also set an agenda about what you want to talk about and accomplish (questions below). It is vital that you are honest and open about your issues, wants, fears, etc. so you can get the MOST out of the conversation. Lay it on the table-say, “this is what I want to do but I’m stuck. I’ve tried this, that and the other, but it hasn’t worked, that’s why I called you.” Be willing to look at yourself, be challenged and move forward.
What don’t clients do.
Hire a mentor and expect the mentor to do everything. Expect to get easy answers. Expect change without being willing to do anything different (like hire a weight trainer, not exercise and go home and eat Twinkies).
COUNSELING VS. MENTORING
Counseling is Archaeology (digging up the past), Coaching is Architecture (now is the time that
I invest in myself, discover my options and do what I need to do to move forward and build and/or my business into its most positive state).
Why are clients seeking mentoring over counseling?
This is not a trend. This is a paradigm shift in our society. It is a recognition that there are helpful conversations that are valuable and open us up to a new perspective. Twenty years ago, people only got counseling if they had a mental illness or imbalance. Not today! Now, we seek mentoring or coaching to make life less complicated, more directed and enjoyable.
RELATIONSHIP STRUCTURE OF A COACH VS. COUNSELOR
Mentor and Client: it’s a co-created relationship. Mentors listen then provoke the client to think, feel, intuit and act accordingly. Mentors have higher expectations, give homework, provide challenges.
Counselor and Client: In therapy, counselors create a ‘safe container’ for clients to un/discover how the past has created who they are and deal with that. Counselors have no expectations of the client, no homework for the client and do not hold them accountable for any change.
